Tuesday, August 9, 2005

Good Advice Not Taken Assignment #71

There have been many times I was given good advice-most of which I took, but there have also been a few times I've regreted not listening and taking the advise of wisdom from someone else.  One in particular was from a delivery nurse at the hospital.

I had just given birth to my second child a few hours before, and my "then" husband announced that he was going to go home and watch the rest of the 1994 World Soccer on T.V.  I wasn't too upset about it because I was looking forward being alone actually, but apparently the delivery nurse that was monitoring me that evening was appalled.

"I would divorce him," she exclaimed.

I was took aback, and was surprised by her candid comment.  I didn't take it seriously; but it did make me think.  Her comment stayed with me for a long time.

Well, I eventually divorced the husband, but only after enduring a long, rocky marriage that led me to a realization that I had always known, but refused to acknowledge that things were not going to get any better..no matter how I tried.  It takes two to tango.  If I had divorced the then husband earlier, I would not have had to endured such hardship, but then again..would I be the same person as I am today?  Maybe not.  Life is just a book of assorted pages, full of drama, bewilderment, happiness, sadness, challenges...  I guess it is just easier to give advice, than taking it; until we learn for ourselves that the best advice comes from the actual exprience of learning the consequences....  Does that makes sense? 


 

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